Envision Your Family Culture


I love this little picture of tiny homes. Can’t you just imagine the birds at work, feathering their nests? Busy, busy awaiting spring and eggs and chicks? Or sheltering in these vibrant little boxes during storms? It reminds me of homes and of all that we do, as moms, to make them homes and not just houses. Of what we can do that’s a deeper, a more lasting, type of feathering.colorful birdhouses

“Some people have an instinctive knack for interior decorating. Like an artist with a blank canvas, they can walk into a room and envision it in a new way. They can see the room afresh, select and place pieces and colors, and somehow create an entirely new space: a space that communicates something, that feels a certain way, that embodies the designer’s vision,” I wrote in Cherish Your Family (part of the Flourishing Faith series.)

(Confession: I wrote that paragraph a tinge of envy. Interior decorating is so not my thing. Trust me, you do not want my advice on colors, styles, etc. But my little sister? She rocks at this sort of thing. It just comes naturally to her. She has an artist’s vision for how a space can look, can feel, can be. I had her in mind when I wrote the above paragraph. OK, now back to Cherish Your Family . . .)

“Imagine your ‘family culture’ for a moment—the environment of your family life: the way you speak and interact, the habits and traditions you share, the stuff you regularly do, the identity you create together. Take the role of ‘interior decorator’ and imagine that culture as a room you can envision and design.”

See, our family culture — the way we treat each other, the environment we create within our relationships, our time together, our interactions, our silences — it can either “just happen” or we can be intentional about it. I don’t know about your experience, but for me? When it “just happens” it’s . . . not so good. The decor of our family culture ends up looking like a hoarder’s collection of  crabby, selfish, moody, grumpy, bitter, resentful, angry, self-absorbed, unkind, and so on.    

But we moms? We have a privileged role of being intentional about envisioning and cultivating a different family culture. A culture of affirmation and encouragement. Of listening and support. Of warmth and laughter. Of learning and discovery. Of hard work and satisfaction. Of humility and service. Of apology and forgiveness. Of grace and of love. 

Rather than a tottering pile of ugly knickknacks, we can envision a culture of beauty and welcome. A home that says, Come in. You are safe. Be yourself.

What do you most desire your home — not the physical space but the internal culture — to be like? What’s “just happening” in your home, what’s your role in that, and how could it change? What’s one value that you want to be more purposeful about cultivating? Pray, seeking God’s help. (I certainly need it in this area!). And if you want, share your ideas here!

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And stay tuned for more in this “Be Mom” discussion for the month of May.be mom series

















One response to “Envision Your Family Culture

  1. Jennifer Smith

    Kelly I really appreciate your blog. And I don’t say that much! I find many blogs to be whiny rants about perceived injustices. Or they are are so filled up with personal emotion or personal experience that I find it hard to relate to (or just plain boring!). But I find something different when I read your writing, and it always points me to the Lord. I can’t imagine how you get it all done in one day, but I am glad you do! 🙂 Jennifer

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